Hello lovely
Relating is HARD.
Especially in the relationships that matter the most to me—the ones where I want to feel understood, valued, and seen. You know what I mean?
Every time I approach the people I love and cherish, I’m bringing this deep desire to be met. To be appreciated. To know that I matter to them as much as they matter to me.
But when those expectations aren’t met, I can get so easily disappointed, reactionary, and, let’s be honest… frustrated. It’s like a cycle: I want connection so badly, but my feelings can push me further from it.
What’s helped me (and continues to help me) is compassionate inquiry—pausing to really ask myself:
💫What’s underneath this reaction?
💫What am I craving here?
💫How can I take ownership of my needs without expecting someone else to fulfill them perfectly?
Taking personal inventory is key. Owning my part in the dynamic, and being accountable for the energy I bring into these sacred spaces.
Here’s the truth: Accountability and authenticity are non-negotiables.
I’ve learned to hold myself in high regard, even when I know I’m capable of being less than that. Because when I approach my relationships with a sense of integrity, I not only invite others to do the same—I show up as someone I’m proud of, no matter what happens next.
Honestly, navigating the tension between craving connection and staying true to myself requires practice and a willingness to build skillful awareness. I’m here for it! It’s so my jam.
Because the way we relate—to ourselves and others—defines the quality of our lives. And I want mine to feel real, meaningful, and full of love.
🔥🔥🔥
PS: WORK WITH ME to help refine the way you relate to self and others.
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